Yesterday I was going to our college canteen for having my lunch and there was a boy going in front of me climbing the stairs. He was not so much attractive in terms of looks. I noticed a black thread tied around his foot ankle (Usually Indian parents tie black thread on ankle, wrist or neck of their children to save them from bad energies of society, believing their kids as very precious and attractive). At that moment I realized and traced back the amount of care and sense of importance we get from our parents irrespective of our looks, character or intellect. They always want us to be safe and healthy always.
Don’t you think this is the sense of importance/respect which makes the core of our happiness?
I believe that everyone has got their own gifts from god and it’s difficult to change them completely. I have many friends, some are very intellectual while some struggle to understand even the basic things, some are very handsome/beautiful while some are not so good looking, some do a lot of flex while some are very ground hearted.
By virtue of all these varieties of characteristics we all have got a unique personality.
But would you like to get disrespected/judged on basis of one of your bad quality irrespective of so many good qualities you have?
Don’t say I don’t have any good qualities XD. Everyone has.
Think about it.
It’s just the matter of how we see people around us.
So now the question is how? We know that people need to be respected but how to give that sense of importance to them?
From past many years I have made many friends and by many hit &trials I have got to understand few special points that made me a good communicator and more specifically a better human being in life.
P.S: I would like to give example stories for the points that I am gonna state below.
Hear them out…Just hear them out:
Few days back, we all friends were playing a game called Wolf (A game of finding culprits in villagers) in our hostel room for almost whole night. I was there till 1 A.M, after that I went to sleep but my friends continued to play. In the morning when I woke up at around 8, I went out of my room to get some fresh air (I know it’s not the time to get fresh air at 8 A.M. in summers XD). I saw my friend still awake, I just went to him and asked for gossips of night games after I slept. He told that people fought for some rule break by the culprits in the game. It heated up the hour and he was kind of not in a good mood too because of some other work he was doing from last 2 hours.
Firstly he wasn’t telling what’s the problem because he just wanted to sleep and not to rant about things now but still he wasn’t able to sleep because of the frustration. I kept on listening to him without saying much. Then he automatically spoke that he was preparing his resume from last 2 hours by reviewing around 10–15 resumes of successful seniors. He is now frustrated because he is not able to make a good one by himself because of lack of stuff to put in it. Then he continued telling about others stuffs too about yesterday and so on. So for 10 minutes he kept speaking and I kept listening without speaking much. After that I said okay then I’ll leave now and you should sleep. And then guess what?
He smiled and said:
It was good that you came otherwise I couldn’t sleep now. Thanks!
So we can see that by only listening to people you can make feel respected and heard.
Some of you might think that I wasted my early morning productive 15 minutes but I would like to tell one thing that it benefitted me too because before leaving his room I asked him to send those 10–15 resumes to me also, so that I could refer them for my resume also. And he sent later. Now I am using those resumes for making mine.
So can we say it was a good trade off?
Now, this trade off will lead to the base of second point that I want to convey:
Their experiences and your learnings:
“Talking to a person for 30 minutes is equivalent to reading a complete book in 30 days” ~ Some wise person
People come from different backgrounds, cultures, professions and they have many stories to tell and many experiences to share.
Some come from a very weak economical condition while some come to attend lectures in their BMW and Mercedes, Some are hard-core non- vegetarians while some don’t even drink milk (they believe cow’s milk is meant for cow’s calves and not for humans, we steal it from them), Someone share the story of a crime case in their village in which a boy robbed a bank and then gave back the money after 10 days after he realizes that it was not ethical to rob while some explain about the different religious believes of their cultures.
So it is very interesting to listen to all these stories from people. It gives you a broader view of life and actually makes you street smart because you know about the different possibilities that you can face in life beforehand that you learnt by listening to other people’s experiences.
I genuinely believe that major part of my life’s learnings come from the people I have talked to. Whenever I get stuck in some situation I get remembered of some past statement/incident that I learnt from someone and it actually helps me in making better and smart decisions now. This is the reason I respect people a lot because they have got so many things inside them.
These were few of my observations and learnings from people that I shared.
If you liked my perspective or it helped you in any way then please like this read. I have just started with writing by this article.
Please comment your opinions, I would love to hear them.
